HAPPY HALLOWEEN

Happy Halloween everyone!! I love halloweeen. When I was younger my brother and I would dress up and go trick or treating for hours. We knew all the best neighborhoods who had the most and best candy. At home we would dump our candy out, sort it and then start the trade business. Before bed mom let us have a peice of candy, highlight of the night. Halloween is not the same anymore. The best candy has now been deemed dangerous and it seems kids get less and less each year. I used to have to carry two pillow sacks around. I am telling you, I cashed in with candy. In my teens, trick or treating was still ok to do, dressed up in silly costumes, sang for our treats then went to a Halloween party to see who had the best costume. As an adult trick or treating is no longer allowed, unless accompanied by a child, and dressing up is less likely unless going to an event, which does not always happen. It is also more stressful to pick a costume than when you were a kid. The possibilties were endless when you were a kid, now it seems that our choices as adults are limited. At any rate this year I will be dressing up and going to a halloween party. The decision making process was difficult but I managed to figure out a fun costume.

I am not a fan of scary costumes, I think Halloween should be about the fun and silliness of it all, not to scare the living crap out of someone. I also like to hand out Halloween candy. Not something that is fun when you are a kid but as an adult I appreciate the fun of it. Its fun to look at all the kids costumes, see what creative ideas their little minds come up with. I have also developed a love for walking around a neighborhood to look at the kids costumes. I doubt no one will come to my house for candy so this is the opportunity I must take to get a look at the cute kids running around with pillow sacks screaming the famous Trick or Treat!

Have a fun and safe Halloween!

Today...

Today I am sitting at home in my jammies enjoying the rainy day and a day off school.

Today I talked to my mom. I miss her alot. I wish I spent more time with her before I moved. I am thankful however for the fact our relationship has grown. I am quite proud of her as she continues to improve her life. I am also excited that she is finally getting a computer so I can send her pictures of my new life.

Today I am a little sad that the trees have lost their leaves as I love the fall colors. It is nice outside today despite the rain, I wish that it was always that colorful outside. I love this time of year, not too hot to wear a sweater but just cold enough to need a sweater.

Things that make you go Hmmm

University, that is a thing that makes you go hmmm. Why is it necessary, to get decent jobs but is that really true. In school you learn all these new and cool things. For example I am taking American history and English, both good subjects, and they are interesting. But when I go look for a job in the real world is anyone really concerned what I think about Huck Finn or the Scarlet Letter? Probably not. Does anyone really care that I know the events of the Boston Tea Party or the Civil War, probably not. All employers care about is the fact that you are dedicated and hard working. That is what I am paying 40,000 into debt for? Is too show you on a peice of paper that I can work hard and am dedicated. If you hired me you would know that already. Anyway as I write this rant I am currently sitting at a table about to write another paper which is probably more trouble than what its worth. All I have to say is thank god I am almost done!

Paying it forward, does it really work? I would like to believe it does. I paid it foward today, I bought some random guy a coffee. He was standing behind me in line and I said I was going to pay for that. Don't get too excited, it wasn't b/c he was hot or anything, he was some old dude who looked like a prof here. Not someone who couldn't affored a coffee but I thought it would be my good deed for the day. I wonder if he did something nice for someone else today?

Why people feel it necessary to come all the way out to my house to tell me I should find the love and joy of God. I am all for believing in your own thing and sometimes its interesting to learn about, when I ask about it. I don't need you to come to my house to TELL me what I should or should not read or believe in. If I wanted to talk about it I would have done something about it. I don't think it would be very acceptable if I went around to people's houses telling them my beliefs.

I cannot even express

Words cannot even express how pissed and yet how amazed I am. I just don't understand people, how they can outright lie to people without even thinking about it!! How stories can get twisted around to make someone else out to be the bad guy. My husbands previous employer is one such person who I just don't get. My husband was looking for a new job, he had an interview and told his boss about it because he is an honest person and did not want to start off any new or old job with a lie. So he told them he was looking and asked to use them as a reference. I did not think this was the greatest idea but I understand his motives. His boss put an ad up for his position and when they found someone they "let him go". My husband hated his job so was fine with this as he was sure he was going to get the other job and he did. So he asked his old boss if he should come back for his two weeks. His boss say NO and that he would get his two weeks of pay plus severence in the next few days. Sounds good, my husband leaves his old crappy job for a new one and there is no hard feelings between him and the boss. My husband goes to pick up his paycheque only to find on his ROE the reason for leaving was because he quit and there was no severence pay!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME!! What a bunch of A$$holes. First off he did not quit,you let him go therefore severence pay is necessary!!!
Understandably pissed at the situation my husband called the labor board. They told him he would lose the case because he was avaliable to go back and finish his two weeks. THEY TOLD HIM NOT TO COME BACK! WTF?! So we are out money and faith. I just cannot express to you how pissed I am at these people. I have never have wished so badly for something bad (not death or hurtful things) to happen to these people. Something like their systems to crash or go out of buisness would put a smile on my face. However I am not going to do anything to make this happen as Karma as a way of making its rounds and so they will get whats coming to them and when it happens holy crap are they in trouble!!!

Time Flies

Time flies when you are having fun or when you are trekking cross country to a new place where you have never been before and starting a brand new life. That was me. A year ago yesterday my husband and I said our goodbyes to family and friends, got in our car (at a very ungodly hour) with our worldy possessions stuffed into the backseat and drove east. It was an adventure I will not forget. Our destination Fredericton, NB. For me this trip was full of scary but new adventures. I had never really heard of Fredericton nor I had ever been there but here I was in the car watching AB fade as we drove further and further east. I had never lived more than an hour's drive from my parents and so you can imagine the mixed emotions going on inside of me as we were moving to the oppsite side of the country, from the Pacific coast to the Atlantic coast. A huge move for someone who has never lived outside of AB. For my husband this move was family tradition. He had moved a lot when he was a kid and since the age of adulthood his family has always lived apart, this was nothing new for him. I was kind of glad for that as I needed someone who knew what moving away from parents was like and could tell me things were going to be ok. 10 days of driving, sightseeing and visiting made for a great cross country experience. Something I think people should try to do at least once. Canada is a beautiful country and its unfortunate that many people don't get the chance to see it coast to coast. That being said I don't think I will drive cross Canada again, once was enough for me! Its a long trip.

So here I am today almost a year later in Fredericton, NB. Many things have happened in this last year that its hard to believe how fast it went. My husband and I made many great friends here, all of which I would call the best of friends, we bought a house, he has been at his job for almost a year and I am in school which I hope is almost done. Though we are doing mostly the same things as we would be doing in AB, working and going to school, life is so much better here. For the first half of the year it was hard, homesickness set in about every five mins of the day and it was hard for me to let go of AB. I would tell people that AB was my home, I would often refer to it as home. The last half of the year has played out much differently. I recently went to AB for a wedding and I found myself referring to NB as my home, "back at home" I would often say. This was a nice feeling. I finally was home. AB is where I am from, NB is my home. Of course I miss my family and friends in AB and they will always be a part of me and my life but other than them I do not miss AB at all and its new title is its a place where I am from.

Thanks to all those in NB who welcomed us into their hearts and homes. You have helped the process of starting a new life much easier. Also thanks to my wonderful husband who sat with me on those nights where crying due to homesickness was my main activity for the evening. He has supported me in many ways and I love and thank him for that. Last but not least thanks to my family and friends in AB for understanding the reasons for such a big change in life. I appreciate your understanding and support. I cannot wait to see what another year brings us here in Fredericton, NB

Update

Well I am home from AB, I have been home for about a week but I haven't had a chance to write anything b/c my life has been so hectic the last week I haven't been able to think about anything else. Its amazing how much life can change in a short time. I was gone for three weeks and a lot of things happened (I won't bore you with the details) and so that has been the focus of my attention. Things have settled down and I hope that eventually life in NB can have some sort of normalcy again. I also have school to concentrate on. This semester is going to be long haul, three English classes and two History classes. By the end of the semester I better be a pro in paper writing.
I am going to NKOTB in less than a week with the girls and I am so excited. The last time I did a girls trip I was 19. Its going to be so much fun. It will be a nice break from life.
I had a great time in AB. It was nice to see all my old friends and family again. I do miss them but I realized just how much I don't miss AB. NB is my home now and I am glad to be back.

In AB

I am in AB. I just wanted to update you on the events of my life here in AB. I am having a good time, its been a busy, stressful and most emotional time but nonetheless a good time. My aunts memorial went really well. We could have not asked for a better day to send her off into blissful peace. Seeing family is always an exciting time. There were lots of family members who I had not seen in a long time and it was good to catch up. Along with family comes up history and some drama, sometimes more than needed and I certainly caught wind of some of that family history and drama, more than I expected or was prepared for.

I now have the wedding to look forward to. There has been some bumps along the way but in the end it will be a great day and all that matters are those that are getting married.

Though I am having a good time in AB, I am also looking forward to going home. I have really realized, especially in my time here, how much NB and my friends there mean to me. I love it there and would not trade it for the world. I am also desperately missng my husband. I cannot wait to see him in a week. I sort of hope it goes fast just so I can see his cute smiling face! Anyway that is the update on my life in AB at the moment